TIISG: Thanks Dr. Joe

We all have those moments. You know, the ones where it seems like you’re banging your head up against a wall and you don’t know what to do or where to turn or how to change it. Sometimes those moments seem to go on for days or longer. They’re not fun, those moments.

I had one of those moments a few weeks ago and it was one of those moments that seemed to be lasting a lot longer than just a moment!

I’ll be honest with you here. I’m really working through some of my money “stuff.” I’ve got this feast or famine thing happening. January was my best money month ever in this business. Most of the enrollments for a couple of classes that I was teaching all landed in January, which helped a lot. It felt great to hit that new benchmark.

And then my “stuff” must have kicked in, because March and April were two of my worst money months ever! And at the end of April I found myself wondering where the money had gone, where more of it was going to come from, and how I was going to “make it happen?”

With all of that chatter bouncing around in my head, it was difficult getting anything done. So one day, deep in the middle of that “moment” that didn’t seem to be going away, I decided to find some help.

One of the ways that I find help is by reading articles and books by people who inspire me, people I want to emulate. My virtual mentors, if you will. That day I was drawn to Joe Vitale. He’s the author of the Attractor Factor, featured in the Law of Attraction movie, The Secret, creator of Spiritual Marketing and Hypnotic Marketing… Yes, he’s prolific!

I surfed over to his website, found my way to his article archives and started browsing through them looking for the one that I intuitively knew was waiting to offer me just what I needed. My eye landed upon a cryptic title: “TIISG: The Secret of Napoleon Hill, P.T. Barnum, and Me.”

In this article Joe described one of the characteristics that set these folks (and most successful people) apart from most. It seems that when these types of folks find themselves in one of “those moments,” instead of getting stuck in it and moaning, they look for a way to “Turn It Into Something Good,” TIISG!
It was exactly what I needed to hear. How could I turn this “moment” into something good? Where was the opportunity in this experience?

The first “hit” I got was to call my biological mother. It was time to uncover the roots of my dysfunctional relationship with money. Since years of positive thinking and ritual and attracting and healing and you name it had not completely shifted the pattern of dysfunction, it made sense to go back to the core, to the source, so to speak, and discover what money patterns and beliefs I might have absorbed during my time with her. (I believe that we absorb emotional/energetic patterns and beliefs while we are in the womb. But that’s a discussion for another time).

I discovered some very interesting information. Turns out that my mother had given me up for adoption because she did not have enough money to raise me. In order to keep me she would have had to return to her parents’ house or go onto welfare. Neither of which were options that she could live with.

We had a wonderful conversation that helped me understand many things about myself and the roots of my relationship with money. We explored some of the – obviously irrational – ways that my unconscious mind had attempted to integrate that experience: That it had somehow been my fault that she didn’t have enough money. That I was not able to provide her with the money she needed to keep me (even though I was a fetus at the time!) These and other completely illogical stories had been created in my mind in response to the emotional and energetic experience of adoption. Causing me to create a continuing relationship of helplessness around money.

When we got right down to the core of it, all the stories were just convoluted ways of saying that I was not good enough. And if I wasn’t good enough for her to keep I certainly was not worthy of having lots of money.

Now here’s the thing. I’m not a whiner. At least I do my very best to avoid whining unless absolutely necessary. I don’t go around moaning about the fact that I’m adopted and that it means I wasn’t good enough. None of these stories were “true” and none of them served my highest good, but they were still clearly holding some power over me and my present day relationship with money.

The conversation with my mother ended with an agreement that I would call her every day, or as needed, to be reminded that I am good enough, that I am worthy of all that I desire. In this way, the power of those stories will decrease as I consciously choose to step into a new, empowering story about my sense of worth and my relationship with money.

By choosing to turn one of those moments into something good, I uncovered a key to help me create a more fulfilling and joyous life. I would say that qualifies as something good! By asking the simple question, “How do I turn this into something good?” I set in motion a series of events that is still unfolding and has the potential to dramatically transform my life.

The next time that you find yourself in one of those moments, will you remember these five letters: TIISG? Will you remember that they stand for Turn It Into Something Good? And will you ask yourself the question, “How can I turn this into something good?”

If you do, you will quickly discover that it is these moments that provide you with the most profound opportunities for growth, awareness, healing and transformation.

I’d love to hear about the times in your life that you have turned one of those moments into good. Leave a comment at Evolving Times and share your success with this technique.

Edward Mills, MIM, is an Attraction Coach, teacher and speaker, empowering people to create an awesome life. You can sign up for his monthly complimentary ezine, Evolving Times, and recieve a valuable Attraction Starter Kit, at his website: http://www.edwardmills.com. You can also read more at his blog: http://www.evolvingtimes.com